世世代代永远不要说放弃。How to Be Better at Being Single

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No matter how successful you are in life and business, success doesn’t
give you immunity from humanity. We all have days where we don’t want to
get out of bed. But…what happens when this feeling lasts for days or
weeks or months? What happens when we feel like we’ve lost purpose and
we just want to give up, whether on a career or relationship?

Being single, much like a wrinkle-free neck and the illusion that
nuclear war won’t happen in your lifetime, is something you often don’t
appreciate enough until it’s gone. Many people feel that to be single is
to be alone and to be alone is to be lonely, but it doesn’t have to be
that way. It shouldn’t be that way! Once you’re over the requisite
16-month honeymoon period and you’ve alienated all your friends with
your amorous drivel, you’re going to settle into a nice boring holding
pattern of love. With it will come the realization: Holy shit, I wasted
being single.

在生活中,在做事直达,不管你是何其成功,成功不会见赋予你免受生活带来的苦处。总有那来天不思愈,但是,当这种场面总是出现几乎龙,几完善,或是几只月为?不管是在做事达成或情感上,当我们备感我们活之目的不明显,想只要舍弃的当儿会什么为?

It’s easy to do. Even if you enjoyed your Tinder years, by the time
you’re in a solid relationship for a while, some small part of you will
miss the instability and freedom of being Not Taken. So in the meantime,
capitalize on being single by doing the following:

I’ve identified the seven things you need to do when you feel like
giving up.

Indulge your sloth

当你感到想要舍弃的时节,看看自家早已归纳出的这些。

If you don’t feel like going out, don’t. Stay in and curse modern
dating, as if apps were the reason you can’t meet anyone (it’s
definitely not the fact that you correct everyone about “less” versus
“fewer”). Stay in, order a calzone, and make some good points on Reddit
about the plot holes in Home Alone 2. Or stay out till 2 A.M. with your
second fling of the month. No one cares what you do, and that freedom is
a beautiful thing: No one cares if you get home late, no one cares if
you set your alarm to go off at 6:00, 6:15, 6:22, and 6:30 because you
were out late enjoying someone’s naughty bits and you might oversleep.
Be free!

Go Back To ‘Why’

Get a new hobby

回过头来问自己“为什么”

The word “hobby” sucks. Almost nothing you can call a hobby is hot. Once
you call something a hobby, it becomes nerdy. Basically, instead of a
hobby, just work out more. (Kidding! Mostly.)

As Simon Sinek says, it starts with ‘why.’ Occasionally, we start with
one vision in mind and end up moving so far away from why we started a
business, job or relationship in the first place that we end up lost and
questioning our decisions and actions. Maybe you can’t remember the last
time you were happy. Perhaps your big colorful picture of where you
wanted to head has slowly turned to black and white. Get back that
clarity! Every 90 days revisit your big ‘why’ to ensure you’re on track
and achieving what you want.

The good news about being single is that it doesn’t matter what I—or
anyone else—wants you to do with your time or how hot (or not) they find
it. It’s your time. That’s the beauty of being single. It’s all your
time. You don’t have to go watch your partner’s new short film that you
didn’t get and they don’t have to show up to your rec league soccer
games where you get too aggressive and it kind of makes them
uncomfortable. Get your hobbies going now so that you have a full life
once you start dating. You don’t want to be that couple who always is
together all the time, doing couple activities. (The only thing less
sexy than a hobby is a couple activity. Excluding, of course, sex.)

便像西蒙
西尼克所说,得先找找找“为什么”。有时候,起初在咱们心还有一个有关事业、工作、感情的光明愿景,但是最终之结果却同我们的愿景相差太远。失败以后,我们就会质疑我们早期的控制,我们的走。也许你无记上次上次开心是什么时。也许在公脑海中的挺五彩缤纷的镜头为早就慢慢的成为黑白色。让她变得清清楚楚起来吧。每隔90上不怕问问自己“为什么”,以担保您走在对的道路上,以保险您会落实而的靶子。

Be active

Learn To Feel Uncomfortable

I know it seems like I keep telling you to work out, but this one isn’t
actually about that. It’s just about staying engaged. Do things that
make you feel good. I’m not suggesting at all that once you start dating
someone any of these things need to stop, but right now you get to eat
what you want every single night. You get to go to the bar you like
every single time. So use all your energy to build up a life you do
want. If you like traveling and can afford it, go somewhere alone. Start
a side business. Buy a new couch without any input from someone else.
Keep your life moving.

宪章着去感受在面临之非痛快

Fix yourself

Life is not easy nor is it meant to be. We are always facing hurdles and
obstacles that we must overcome, which is all part of the journey. If
you can accept that things will get tough and it won’t always be roses
and sweet-smelling kittens, you’ll get yourself better prepared for
what’s to come. When you feel stuck in a rut you must learn to breathe,
reset and revisit your goals. What is it that you’re going for in
business and in life? A simple readjustment and a brief ‘time out’ can
dramatically move you forward like you never thought possible.

Now is your time to start therapy, or end toxic friendships, or work on
your short fuse, or examine how your childhood traumas are holding you
back from making a commitment. I don’t know. Whatever it is, don’t wait
until you have someone phenomenal in your life and then drop that stuff
in their lap, hoping they’ll help you do the emotional labor.

在并无轻,也无应有是善之。在生活中,我们总是会逢我们亟须经历之阻力,因为及时是就段旅途中之一样部分。你得经受这些公道甚艰难的东西,生活备受连无会见充满是香的玫瑰与温顺的小猫,为了能够应付接下所设面对的困苦,你得给您自己转换得又好。当感觉温馨即将无法呼吸时,你一旦学会呼吸,重新开,重新审视你的靶子。在您的事业与生存备受,那毕竟什么?小小的调整,短暂之辰内虽会为你完成以您过去觉得那是无容许成功的转业。

Revel in potential

Win Through Persistence

One of the best parts about being single is how every single night out,
every single trip to the grocery store, and every single vacation feels
laden with hope. You might just smooch a hottie! You might even go home
with a hottie! This could be it! The night the sexy bartender at your
favorite bar finally realizes that they’ve been in love with you and
your impressive drink order all along!

坚持不懈就是战胜

Revel in that. Because along with that hope often come disappointments,
which are much easier to focus on. Once you’re dating someone, nights
out are pretty similar to nights in. What are you doing at a bar other
than paying more for alcohol? Are you really making an effort to meet
new people (as friends!) at the bar, or are you, like most relationship
people, kind of just floating in contentment? It’s lovely if you are out
there just to meet new people platonically, but be honest: A night out
will never be as exciting as when you’re single and you’ve bought into
the idea that “anything can happen.”

Winston Churchill said, “If you have an important point to make, don’t
try to be subtle or clever. Use a pile driver. Hit the point once. Then
come back and hit it again. Then hit it a third time – a tremendous
whack.” Persistence is the key if you want to win. I’ve felt like giving
up many times during my entrepreneurial journey and the persistence to
make things happen has kept me going. Understanding and truly believing
that persistence delivers results will keep you moving forward.

温斯顿·丘吉尔
说罢,“要是你闹同一码重要的事体如果失去开,不要试试着去洞察一切,或者是自作聪明,用你怀的干劲儿,做第一不成,不行就返回原点,再试一次,或者开第三次—-或者好频繁。”要是你想如果博得制胜,坚持才是无限着重的。在本人创业间自己当我割舍了多涂鸦,但是是坚持的夺举行才于自家沾的打响。真正的询问,真正的深信坚持不懈会为您不断前进。

Share Your Goals

以及人大饱眼福您的靶子

You wake up and decide that today is the day you’ll quit smoking. You
start the morning strong, but don’t want to mention it to anyone at work
in case you feel like one at afternoon tea. Find an ‘accountability
buddy’ to keep you on track. Sure, this is scary, but it ensures you
deliver on your promise to yourself. Make sure the other person will
show you some tough love. This will keep you honest and continually
taking action.

早清醒,你决定自今日开班戒烟。早上底时刻,你还大执著,但是还要如果防投机于喝下午茶的时段想来同样根,所以不情愿向他人提起戒烟的从事。找一个“有谱的弟兄”帮您坚持。当然,有接触可怕,但是这么能给你坚持而的操纵。这个人一定得能对而说发逆耳忠言,这样才能够叫您针对好诚实,以便继续保障这种太正确的做法。

Acknowledge Challenges

纳挑战

Oh yes, there will be tough times – but you already know this. When you
feel like giving up because it’s too tough, it’s not a surprise as you
knew the journey wouldn’t be full of rainbows and bunnies. Acknowledge
the challenge, embrace it, learn what you can and power on!

嗯,是的,肯定会发雷同截艰难的辰—-但是若是早已经知道会这么的。当你发好坐太艰难而想使放弃的下,你啊并无见面认为好惊讶,因为当时段旅程注定不是顺利。接受挑战,拥抱她,学习而会学到的,掌握你能掌握的力。

Get Happy

要快乐

We all get in a funk every now and again. That’s just the way we’re
built. But, instead of lying on the sofa eating ice cream out of the tub
and putting on your favorite sitcom, get happy! Think back to the last
time you were really thriving in your life. Think about what you were
doing and make that happen again!

常常的,我们都见面发到怕。这是咱们团结一心支配要活动之行程,但是与其是窝在沙发里吃冰淇淋,还无使泡个澡换上自己做喜欢的衣裳,让祥和变得喜起来。回想最近相同潮而道你真正以为颇欢喜的时光,想想那时您是开了哟,然后重新举行相同次于。

Be Proud

否团结觉得骄傲

Sometimes we forget to stop and smell the flowers. Along those lines, we
also forget to celebrate the victories our efforts have created. Be
proud of where you have come from and what you’ve achieved. Every 90
days, review the last three months, and soak up your achievements no
matter how small they are.

有时候我们忘记了已下来,闻闻花香。谈到此,我们呢忘记了使欢庆经着力使收获的中标。为而的家门,为卿所抱的完成而感到自豪。每隔90上即想起一下近来老三只月而所获的得,不管这些就是基本上很或多聊,你还能够从中受益。

The next time you feel like giving up, ask yourself if you’ve done
everything possible in your current situation to maximize the
opportunity. Have you experienced all the learnings, happiness and pain
associated with what you want to achieve? If the answer is no, then keep
going until you have!

下次当你想只要舍弃的下,问问你协调,在眼前之情状下,你是不是成功了力争到了无以复加多之机遇,尽可能多之姣好了您能形成的?在赶梦想的中途,你是否业已上了您所欲上之,是否更了跟企盼有见解所有喜欢的、痛苦的行?要是答案是否认的,那么在你更了这些之前要继续大力吧!

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